
Part of the reason we were out of town was that while Susie
was at a medical conference in Philadelphia, I was able to spend Saturday in Milltown, NJ where I grew up. I went to the graveyard where my dad
is buried and took a picture of the gravestone to show my mom who probably will
never have the opportunity to visit it.
My dad’s grave is in my mom’s family plot. Among other relatives, my
grandfather is buried there. He was always my favorite relative. I called him
Gramps. I remember lots of fun times with him. He taught me to play Pinochle and
other card games. He used to tell me stories he made up and silly rhymes like, “Adam
and Eve and Pinchme went down to the river to bathe. Adam and Eve got drowned,
who do you think got saved?” Of course, the correct answer of Pinchme resulted
in getting pinched.
My dad was not at all into anything athletic. I don’t
remember him ever throwing me a ball. Gramps would. He would play kickball with me or whatever sport I was interested in. He traveled extensively and told great tales of his
travels. To me, he was a larger-than-life character that I loved.
He got in trouble one time while visiting the island of Guernsey
as he claimed to be going to visit the queen. They take the queen rather
seriously over there and suspected him of who knows what. The friend he was visiting
in Guernsey never spoke to my grandfather again after the episode.
Gramps wore outrageous clothes and was vain enough that he would
never admit how old he was. His grave only has the date of his death, not of
his birth. He died in his late 80s while rehearsing for a play at the
retirement community where he lived.
Whatever his flaws, he was Gramps. By contrast, my dad’s
parents were Grandmother and Grandfather. There were very much of the
children-should-be-seen-and-not-heard school. I remember little about them
other than that they were scary and smelled funny.


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